How to be well sustained in crisis

Those who know me well know I’m independent; I dislike leaning on others or owing anyone. I prefer to be the payer, the one making the introductions and the one creating opportunities. Whether it’s a job connection, teaching a new communication approach,...

“Talking to a God I don’t believe in”

The title of this post is a line in a song I heard in the weeks since Allyen got sick. It struck me. I haven’t actually had a conversation with the God I don’t believe in. I also have not prayed to that God. I always stop myself. I find myself talking to...

What’s big for me is not big for you

I’ve been thrown into a major family health crisis. That’s where my focus is and has been for many weeks now. It is the center of my attention. This doesn’t mean that others experience the crisis in the same consuming fashion as I do. It’s been...

Alice in Wonderland goes medical

…One pill makes you larger, and one pill makes you small… I feel a little like Alice in Wonderland. Only Wonderland isn’t wonderful. Some moments I feel large and in charge: making decisions; feeling well organized and on top of things; learning and...

Survival techniques

In the first 36 hours after Allyen, my husband, collapsed – during which time he was being artificially cooled and rewarmed – I talked with one of the doctors about what someone in an induced coma experiences. The doctor, who Allyen credits with his survival, told...