What’s big for me is not big for you

I’ve been thrown into a major family health crisis. That’s where my focus is and has been for many weeks now. It is the center of my attention. This doesn’t mean that others experience the crisis in the same consuming fashion as I do. It’s been...

A cascade of crisis

This remarkable journey that my husband, Allyen, our kids and I are all on together has taught me some important lessons already. One is that just like home remodeling snowballs into something bigger (e.g., repair the toilet becomes...

Alice in Wonderland goes medical

…One pill makes you larger, and one pill makes you small… I feel a little like Alice in Wonderland. Only Wonderland isn’t wonderful. Some moments I feel large and in charge: making decisions; feeling well organized and on top of things; learning and...

Survival techniques

In the first 36 hours after Allyen, my husband, collapsed – during which time he was being artificially cooled and rewarmed – I talked with one of the doctors about what someone in an induced coma experiences. The doctor, who Allyen credits with his survival, told...

Start to a new journey

So begins my cathartic journey. I’ll start at the beginning. He was turning purple. Gurgling rather than actually breathing. Movement and voice came to me instinctively, not with the strategic thought I counsel clients to take. I was talking to the 911 operator at...

How to make a lasting memory

How do I restart? Why did I stop? The past 14 months have been a real tear across time. Thankfully, Eloquor has had a ton of work. Work has been more than steady. So, it’s a time issue. So many posts get written in my head but never make it to the keyboard. In...