How to be well sustained in crisis

Those who know me well know I’m independent; I dislike leaning on others or owing anyone. I prefer to be the payer, the one making the introductions and the one creating opportunities. Whether it’s a job connection, teaching a new communication approach,...

A cascade of crisis

This remarkable journey that my husband, Allyen, our kids and I are all on together has taught me some important lessons already. One is that just like home remodeling snowballs into something bigger (e.g., repair the toilet becomes...

Alice in Wonderland goes medical

…One pill makes you larger, and one pill makes you small… I feel a little like Alice in Wonderland. Only Wonderland isn’t wonderful. Some moments I feel large and in charge: making decisions; feeling well organized and on top of things; learning and...

Survival techniques

In the first 36 hours after Allyen, my husband, collapsed – during which time he was being artificially cooled and rewarmed – I talked with one of the doctors about what someone in an induced coma experiences. The doctor, who Allyen credits with his survival, told...